Several times in past few months I've had the good fortune to meet some other moms with kids about the same age as Divina. While I love meeting other moms, I'm not sure why they need to tell me their pregnancy stories. I'll listen for a while, then say something like "Wow. I'm kind of glad I never got pregnant. You know, we went through three years of infertility treatment." I've met only a small number of moms who got the hint. Talking to me about pregnancy is a lot like talking to man about it. Do women feel compelled to share their gestation stories with men? I wonder. Maybe when the next mom gets on a role I should share my daily needle/injection stories or the painful insemination procedures. I rant.
While rocking Divina last night she said "You're not angry anymore? You're happy?" I guess I was sort of irritable that evening and was short with her. Once we began reading our bedtime stories (poems this week) I felt better and more relaxed. I told her that she and I share our hearts. They beat as one. When she is cranky (which she was earlier) I am cranky. And when she is happy, I am happy. We share our moods and temperments. She smiled at me when I told her about that. I think it made her feel good (as it did me) to recognize that we are connected on levels that we are not always aware of. It does not matter that she did not grow under my heart. She grew in it.
Friday, April 13, 2007
A Weird Phenomenon
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Oh oh was I one of those people? If I was and annoyed you I do apologize. Now I hope this comes out right. I think, for me atleast, if I did carry on anytime about pregnancy stories, was actually because I never really saw you as an adoptive parent. Does that make sense? I know I'm getting myself in trouble here trying to explain. I'm not very good at explaining :-)
You were Divina's mommy and that was that. It may sound foolish but maybe I had even forgotten about you adopting her. Am I making sense. Okay I'll stop now.
But women in general love to talk about the whole baby business especially labour and any horror stories of epidurals and such, not meaning to hurt anyone's feelings.
There are those, however, who are very nasty...the women I mean. Who will purposely go on and on about "their pregnancy and birth experience" knowng that it will be hurtful to someone who did not go through that process. It also makes them feel better about themselves. Sort of like, look at me, I'm better than you because I can do this and you can't.
I've met some.
I do hope you're feeling less irritable at the moment.
Take Care.
Oh wait, last night out of the blue, Christopher walks up to me and says, "Divina went away" How does a 3 yr old'd mind work. Do thoughts just pop into their heads?
Almost forgot, I love the new look.
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